1. Where am I in my life? Is this where I want to be?
This is a big question. What is happening in my life and am I happy? Am I enjoying myself? Do I feel fulfilled? Am I going through the motions? Whatever the question is running through your mind, what are you doing about it? Are you setting up new goals to achieve or resolutions to create? And then, are you sticking to them.
2. Who am I? Does my life reflect this vision I hold of myself?
To know where you want to be in my life you must know what it is you want, who you are, or who you want to be. This is a very real decision that you get to make. How do you want to be seen in the world? How do you want to be seen in your day to day? Does your character and persona, even without speaking, convey a message of who you are? Do you even know what it looks like or what that means?
3. What do I want?
Gaining clarity of what you want is a powerful insight, yet in the beginning can be a difficult question. While we have obligations in our lives, these can/may shift when we begin to clarify what we want. It is not selfish to desire things in life. Selfish is when we put our own interest ahead of others REGARDLESS of the implication it makes on their lives. While a parent, for example, will make many decisions in life based on the well being of their children, it is not wrong to know that they can also make decisions that allow them to thrive and live expressing fully their life. And the more you ask yourself “What do I want?” the easier it is to identify the answer and start putting it into place.
4. Am I willing to take the steps necessary to get what I want? Despite the perceived risk?
Now comes the challenge. Are you willing to begin moving in the direction of your desire? What is the story you are telling yourself that either says “Yes, I am willing to begin” or “No, it is too much of a risk at this time”? What are the perceived risks to taking any steps - perceived because they may never occur yet our minds can jump to the worst-case scenario if we let them.
5. What, if anything, is keeping me from doing or living what or how I want?
And finally, what is keeping you from starting today? Is it a thought, a fear of the unknown, a lack of clarity of how or where to begin? Are you wondering if you are worthy enough to deserve such a life or if you have don enough to prove your worth?